Sunday, July 31, 2011

Mommy Cat Loves You!


Life is not just giggles and roses.  It's also pain and tears.  No, no - Shelby is alive, she's just hurt.  To be fair, I injured her.  I spent the last three days in penance, attending to her as she can't really walk, eat or do her business by herself.  I feel sad and guilty, but mostly angry because this was so unnecessary, and tired because it takes so much emotional effort to take care of a suffering loved one.

This is what happened:  we had dinner in China Town before we went to the symphony on Thursday evening, which tasted fantastic but didn't quite agree with me, so I pretty much barfed the entire night.  Early on Friday morning I woke up from weird dreams, still absolutely exhausted, and reached for Shelby, who slept in my feet at the time.  It was still dark outside, I had my eyes halfway closed...I have no idea how and why, but the moment I sat up in bed and stretched my hand to pet her, she made this horrifying sound and ran away.  She might had her rear paw tangled up in the blanket, I don't know.  It was so sudden and strange, and I was so utterly confused and panicked.  Turns out her left leg was sprained and she can't put any weight on it.  And I wanted to jump off of a tall building.

I was completely unprepared to react to such an emergency, and it took me a few hours to pull my shit together.  What a great preparation for having children - children get sick and hurt all the time, and if you lose control you  lose your mind.  I had to mobilize myself and muster all strength to help the poor kitteh.  I spent the entire Friday and most of Saturday on the floor of the hallway, where we had a makeshift bed set up for Shelby.  I did lots of petting, talking to her, giving her water with a spoon and hand-feeding her. Also, I did lots of Internet researching, wondering if I should take her to the vet or spare her the stress and heal her at home.  Her paw isn't broken or swollen, she just can't walk on it and she's badly scared.  

Thankfully, she's slowly turning around and only had a couple of setbacks (leaving my hand with a few kitty teeth scars in the process).  I am also better; food poisoning's gone although I can't compensate the lack of proper sleep in any other way than by actually sleeping.  Ah, we'll come to that one day...


P.S.  The silver lining -  today we went to Borders, which are going out of business (sob!), and had a book-shopping therapy to ease our pain.  I got the latest SPIN and a Poets&Writers magazine at a half price, and 20% off of an Anthony Kiedis biography.  And Shelby got so many wonderful noms from Petco, that I wonder how am I going to reverse the effects of this spoiling after she gets better...

Things That Hang from Trees in My Neighborhood


I have told you about these before, but I felt it's time to gather them all together in a single comprehensive post.  

It's funny that I live in a million-dollar NorCal suburbia where people feel confident enough to own two new hybrids, and safe enough to park them with their doors open in the evening after a particularly hot day - I am very much disconnected from that type of culture (being a city gal so far, and coming from a family of classic working intellectuals), but I still appreciate the aesthetic touches that distinguish a dull upper-middle class (latte-sipping, mall-shopping, TV-addicted) from an agreeable upper-middle class (latte-sipping, online-shopping, book-reading such).  The latter group of people have the same successful and comfortable life as the former, only they believe more in the powers of recycling, and decorate their exteriors more tastefully than simply putting signs proclaiming "God Bless America!"

Sure, I am judgmental - and I think that everyone who has at least a bit of common sense and curiosity when it comes to his everyday environment should be too.  Besides, I might be socially critical but I am also a sucker for imaginative designs.

There, see for yourself:

wishingtree

heartree

eggtree


 

Saturday, July 30, 2011

A Night at the Symphony


First of all, I would like to thank my wonderful neighbor Morgan and her finch birdies for being responsible for my first live symphony experience. Yes, I have never been to a classical concert before (my first opera and ballet also still pending) and it was amazing - I believe that to witness such beauty for the first time at 30 is equally moving as to do so at, say, 9, for the long wait made it worth a while.


John and I arrived in the city about 3 hours before the event, had an early dinner in Chinatown (something that I payed dearly for), and entered Davis Hall when the audience was already gathering. It's was a night of many first impressions, and the amateur anthropologist that I am, I began observing and writing things down:

Apparently, the high heels/long shawls combo is the uniform of the symphony. Luckily, I had intuitively perceived that; I wore strappy heel-sandals and a shiny scarf. The men wore suits, or formal pants and collar shirts, and even the casually dressed people looked quite pretentious. I saw one too many skinny jeans, preppy sweaters, heavy make up; smelled a bouquet of musky French evening perfumes. You see, I only notice these things because they indicate people's attitude to a certain event. The crowds felt the need to appear glamorous and special at a place where you usually just sit down and listen to music for 2 hours, so I figured that going to the symphony is yet another elaborate way of socializing. How naive one must be to presume that people come here merely to enjoy a virtuoso performance?! Ah, I have so much to learn...



The age of the audience fluctuated between 10 and 75, and the senior connoisseurs somewhat prevailed. That would explain the abundant ads for retirement homes in the show's program. The elderly fans looked quite dandy, in the typical American East Coast aristocratic way of having a dignified, slightly stiff and snooty air of wealth that passes for fine artistic taste these days. I might be too harsh, yet I am European. Eastern-European, yes, but still I smell the difference from miles. European blue blood/old money people have this effortless, innate appearance of elegance and parvenu.



Not that I actually care either way; I was far more interested in the gay and lesbian part of the audience. There was a group of fascinating gay women drinking champagne in the lobby, wearing pocket-watches on silver chains and suit vests over their shirts, and there were gay men that looked as if materialized directly from the cover of V Magazine. I couldn't help but feel like in some sort of a contemporary movie with a perfectly chosen diverse cast. You read about such people in lifestlyle blogs and see them in big city night-life photos, but bumping into them in actuality is just so curious, so delicious. I think I was that impressed because it's been awhile since I was a part of an urban movement of any sort (I was definitely the it girl in the early 2000's underground scene of Sofia and I remember what it was like - you know the hot city clubs by heart, and the bouncers know you by name), and also inspired as I felt that such people had given up falsehood a long time ago to become the true charade itself. In a hypocritical society - be it the generally liberal San Francisco such - defiance is admirable. Or maybe, the writer in me is talking once again.



Speaking of charades (and to conclude the fashion analysis), I saw at least 3 women wearing fur, one girl in a crassly short skirt, and the inevitable men in corduroys. It's 2011, people, the age of Giant Particle Colliders and eco cleaning detergents. Evolve already! But then again, it's also the age of reality shows about New Jersey's illiterate, and of extreme religious picketing. I better be grateful that I saw so many people in the symphony at all, regardless of their attire. What can I do; the style snob in me is talking once again...




We hung around for an hour watching a pre-show tango demonstration, then took our seats. There were actual ushers. Turns out we had great $85 seats, almost the equivalent of a rock concert front row section! I was practically squealing with pleasure (and gratitude to Morgan) while I was reading through the booklet and looking up to admire the architecture of the hall.

It was beautiful, and what the program promised was too - violin soloist Lara St. John, Michael Francis conducting, Handel's Royal Fireworks Music for openers, and Vivaldi's Four Seasons as a main piece, intermixed with Piazzolla's The Four Seasons of Buenos Aires. Soon enough, the music began. I can't fully convey the sentiments and apprehensions I had during the couple of hours that followed, but I'll at least try.



I was grinning and simultaneously on the verge of tears the whole time. It was extremely uncomfortable condition but somehow pleasant, too. I know The Four Seasons almost by heart; my Mom bought one of those Classical CD Sets when I was a kid and we always listened to them when we weren't listening to rock'n'roll. That night, however, I was hearing it anew. The entire orchestra hived and breathed, the instruments twitched like organic, living things, the bows poked up and down, the strings vibrated and the air was full with joy. I felt big with music, uplifted and humbled by its undeniable power over both my mind and heart. Quite different from Soundgarden, let me assure you. For one, you can't really bang your head in rhythm (haha), and shuffling too much in your seat or making noises is considered utterly inappropriate.

I realized then that seeing one my favorite rock bands live, although a cathartic experience, cannot compare with hearing the music of a composer such as Vivaldi being performed. While rock music is to a certain degree a physical, almost sexual experience touching the aggressive and controversial parts of one's soul, classical music stimulates the graceful human spirituality and has this spontaneous invigorating effect. I was comically surprised to find out that I had the potential to really sense and think the things I did. Mostly, I was awed by the organic connection between the melody and the qualities of Nature's real seasons.

I come from a place with four well defined seasons (well, not lately - changes in the global climate make the definition a little vaguer every year but that's a whole different story), and I could relate to the representations of the elements. I heard the hope of Spring and May's turbulent yet creative storms, I felt Summer swelter and its still nights full of desire, I saw the world turns color in the Fall, nostalgic and forlorn, and then become all peaceful and exciting again in the Winter. I hadn't known that Vivaldi was only rediscovered in the 1950's, more than two centuries after his renowned life and his obscure death. He played for the Pope twice and composed brilliant operas which were very much in demand during early to mid 18th century. And then, in less than a hundred years, he was forgotten.

Violin prodigy Lara St. John did justice to his music with her passionate performance and meticulous, tight technique by also adding something quite mischievous from herself. She played the entire evening by heart, on a 1779 "Salabue" Guadagnini and wore a hideous ochre yellow, asymmetrical dress that suited her well against all odds. The conductor provoked silent giggles in me - at first I found him more distracting than functional (in truth, he sets the mood and the tempo), and I thought that feeling music and telling other people how to feel music via a baton is a job as cool as professional mattress testing (in fact, conductors must be tremendously talented and reach excellence in at least 2 instruments). He had the shiniest shoes I've ever seen, and won me over as soon as he spoke. Michael Francis is British and so is his sense of humor. The orchestra made one blunder during The Seasons, messing up the tempo a bit, but Francis made sure he briefly stopped the performance for correction and made a joke about the hemispheres that was only half a joke, proving thus that Vivaldi might be easy to listen to yet tough to play.



Piazzolla's pieces were unusual, a strange mix between jazz and ethno music composed within the conventions of classicism. It added to Vivaldi nicely and provided another opportunity for St. John to shine. There was an encore called Oblivion and after many minutes of applause, we exited the building and smuggled quietly into the night.



Wednesday, July 27, 2011

So You Want To Be A Writer*



Besides coffee shops we, writers, love to hang out at bookstores.  Which perfectly normal person don't love to hang out at bookstores, anyways?!  There, and in the library.  For the most part it's quiet, you can meet interesting people, and it's FULL WITH BOOKS.  

Writers need to be surrounded by books because it reminds them why they are going through all the trouble of writing.  Think of it - the smell of fresh ink, the delicious sound of flapping pages, imaginary worlds and fates unfolding in the palm of your hands, paper-cuts, the sight of a beautiful woman reading a novel while lying in a hammock and eating oranges (I know, random...), the bestselling chart in the Sunday Times, book signings and literary readings, the rush of adrenalin when you at last find the expression that matches the image in your head just right, the rush of murderous anger when your editor comes back to you with your draft almost completely obliterated with a red pen, the relief when the story is finally out and down on paper....We, writers, have to have books around.  After all, we live and bleed for them.

Also, it feels good to gloat over some famous writer or other's tacky book cover.

I went to the local Books Inc. today and I browsed around for an hour.  I was inspired, entertained, and sort of reassured - no one had come up with an idea as brilliant as mine.

I didn't buy books, but I got the funkiest notebook that has pictures of skies as a background for the pages.  Talking about having your head in the clouds...








A must read: Get Laid or Die Trying (substitute - Big Sex, Little Death)





* a poem by Charles Bukowski

Riddle Me This:



If you, out of pure inspiration, in about 10 minutes write something funny on a plain white t-shirt one night, and this very t-shirt wins a competition the next day, and then someone decides to use the logo to actually print more t-shirts and stickers and use them as a tech-company apparel, does that make you a designer?

I don't think so, but it sure is flattering.  Also, Shelby approves, so I guess it's all good :)


 

He Loves Me So


I am not your average relationship guru, but I know a thing or two about love.  I was oh so lucky to meet the man of my dreams, and I did (and still do) what it takes to keep him around forever - not that it really takes much, with him being such an amazing person, but you get the picture.  Once you realize that you've found the one, do appreciate him/her the way they deserve.

But! Today I want to tell you about what my One does for me.  It struck me today that real love is doing things regardless of the fact that you might not be very good at them, and with no embarrassment or reservations.  John definitely lacks affinity to drawing, yet every morning he goes ahead and doodles little funny drawings on this whiteboard we have in the kitchen.  I am the cat, he's the bear, and the hearts - I believe - do not need explaining.






Bonus:  A tipsy message from me to John - just because it's hilarious   


20 Years of Love and Trust

There's something magical about waking up one brilliant July morning, turning your laptop on, and learning that Cameron Crowe had completed yet another music inspired film, and that said film is a documentary about a band you love to tears.  Dear friends and neighbors, Pearl Jam Twenty is here!!!  I am excited -  It's like suddenly you have the ability of taking a peek into the kitchen of an artist's soul, or into the brains of a genius.  I COVET to watch this reel, to have it, and then watch it again.  

Thank you, guys!  

(Just like Chris Cornell was most likely my husband in a previous live, Eddie Vedder is my best friend in an alternate universe.)

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Google Shmoogle


I just realized that I live just 10 minutes away from Google's headquarters, have a handful of friends that work for Google, and I use most of its products (regardless of Blogger's formatting issues I simply refuse to go with Word Press), but the invite to join Google Plus, amazingly enough, came from nowhere near Mountain View.  It came from a friend in Bulgaria.  And John, who's right in the heart of the Silicon Valley's Second Bubble, was invited by a friend in England.  

Hilarious!

iCake

I made a chocolate fudge cake last night.  Nothing fancy - it was the kind that comes in a box.  You just mix it and bake it...only I took the liberty to add some Belgian cooking chocolate for goodness.  It turned out to be a very good cake indeed.

P.S.  I wonder: how come all the religious freaks in America have not yet come after the name "Devil's Food"?!



Monday, July 25, 2011

Bulgarian Summer Highlights, pt. 3


Ally is my most favorite punkin of a niece.  We go a long way back together.  We are good chumps.  It makes me proud that she took after my affinity for creation and fantasy, but I also love the fact that she's doing it entirely in her own way.  This is a collection of portraits I took of Alexandra during my visit in Bulgaria - they celebrate one bright, energetic and sweetly mischievous child who's growing up so fast it hurts.  Ally turned nine this summer!  She learned to ride a bike, to read even more smoothly, to write in English, and to take pictures with the camera I gave her.  

I miss you, my little Mishka!